DEAR ABBY: I am getting married and my fiancé’s daughters, 19 and 21, are at the wedding party. I bought the dresses they wear, which are light and flowing. I told the girls that on the wedding day I don’t want them to wear thong underwear. The eldest then went to her father and told him that she did not want to wear regular underwear. He told her she could wear whatever she wanted. I tried to tell them that as young girls there are times when you don’t wear a thong, and under a flowy dress there is. It’s a day of their life. How can I get my message across? – THE WISE BRIDE TO PHOENIX
DEAR WISE BRIDE: Explain to your fiancé why you are concerned that his daughters are wearing thong underwear under their bridesmaid dresses and, when you do, be graphic. After that, if he still feels the same, accept it. Then pray that no slippage occurs while they dance and that no strong gusts of wind occur when the wedding photos are taken.
DEAR ABBY: I am dating a lady and committing to our relationship, but every time I visit her in her apartment she expects me to take her dog out. The building has a policy that if the dog poops you have to pick it up and get rid of it, so they have bags in different places.
I don’t like to do it. I grew up on a farm where we had dogs, but I never would have thought of picking up their poop. It disgusts me. OK, so I’ve been doing this for a few years, but I don’t want to do it anymore. But if I say that or don’t, she’ll think I’m not committed to her. What should I do? – DOG WALK IN TEXAS
DEAR DOG WALKS: Defend yourself. Because you feel so strong, tell her that from now on you are going to walk her dog together or that she will have to do it on her own. You may have been raised on a farm, but now you are part of a community with ordinances against leaving excrement on the streets. Your dedication to this person should not be based on your willingness to do a task that they should have done on their own.
DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have a little argument and we are asking for your help in resolving it. We live in an age where we commonly experience “conversations” with robocalls, virtual assistants (Alexa and Echo), and phone routing software. All of this technology is powered by artificial intelligence. So since we are talking to machines, do we have to follow the rules of etiquette with these robots? My wife insists that we should say “Thank you” and “Please” to these software creations, while I say no way is necessary. Your thoughts? – THINK IN MONTANA
DEAR AT HIM: While not required, I know of at least one AI “helper” who would recognize the courtesy.
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