Why is it so hard to make friends as an adult? Especially once you have kids?
There’s something no one tells you about having kids (well, a lot) and that is having kids, for a myriad of reasons, completely robs you of all the social skills that you have. you had parenthood before. And parenthood is so isolating in general, you need people to support you more than ever.
And yet, making friends is so hard when you’re a parent. SO. HARD. Everyone is busy. Everyone is exhausted. And, oh yeah, there’s a fucking pandemic still raging around us and most of our kids are still vulnerable to the virus.
So if you feel like you don’t know where to start to make mom friends and feel very lonely because of it, you are actually not at all alone.
Confessional # 25851552
“I love my gay best friend, but he won’t get married and he certainly won’t have children.
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“I’m sorry. I wish I had more mom friends, but I’m less than 2 weeks away from another Caesarean and struggling to keep up with my DD and my life.
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“I don’t have any mom friends, but I’m working to connect more. I just had the 3rd person who got weird with me and fell. I swear I’m not a weirdo. I know they probably have a lot going on and it’s probably not personal, but it hurts the sensations! I’m trying so hard 🙁 “
Confessional # 25833964
“I don’t have any mom friends in the city where I live. I feel like it would be easier to befriend nannies.
It becomes easier to make friends with moms once you have school-aged kids (preschool counts). But before that, when you need a lifeboat more than ever, it seems impossible to find that kinship with other moms. Because it takes serious effort to get dressed, get out of the house, get outside, etc. It’s so hard to find the time to do all of this (even when we want to), extroverts and introverts alike fight the same.
Confessional # 25832505
“One of my close friends has no sense of humor. His personality makes me really sad.
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“I don’t understand the interest of friends moms.”
Well, that’s one way of putting it. MDR.
Confessional # 25825917
“I wonder what it’s like to have a group of mom friends.”
Confessional # 25821897
“I wish it was easier to make friends with moms who really wanted to talk about things other than Old Navy cash and the deals they make on kids’ items. Maybe I’m less interesting than I think I am, but I definitely have more to say about it than that!
Listen, we are whole people outside of motherhood with complete interests and defined characteristics. We don’t need to talk ONLY about kid stuff!
Confessional # 25816801
“I will NEVER try to make friends again mom!” Bitches who judge! I’m not good enough to be in your circle, so I’ll burn you in mine! WTAF Wrong With You? I lost my faith to never find another friend in my life 🙁 “
Confessional # 25816709
“I’m fully vaccinated now and I’m starting to realize that at the end of the pandemic (which I want of course) the covid excuse wears off, it’s going to hurt again when I realize I don’t just can’t make friends with mom. Nobody wants me and DS in their pod “
Confessional # 25814437
“Feel like the only mom who doesn’t have ‘mom friends’. My son is 3 and I take him to playgroups, but we haven’t made friends with other moms yet. I feel like a rejection.
Confessional # 25812724
“I suspect new mom friends are trying to lure me into their MLM. FML. Does everyone have to have an ulterior motive?
UGHHH moms who attract you under the pretext of friendship just to be able to “hey darling” on a pyramid system are THE WORST.
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“I know my mom friends are as lonely as I am, but we are all too busy to take time for ourselves and spend time.”
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“I miss having friends mom. You know the kind where we all meet and bitch about our dhs over a glass of wine and we laugh so hard that all of our “problems” seem to be gone. They kept me sane. Dh new job made us move.
Confessional # 25779483
“Every year I complain about my birthday. I would have liked to have had a team of mom friends or local friends for that matter. People don’t understand that a lot of us Asperger’s people really want this.
Confessional # 25767748
“I hate that my text messages are ignored by my friends moms and sisters-in-law and respond to everyone’s group chat. It makes me feel even more ignored than I already do while staying at home. I feel invisible.
Making friends is hard, period. Especially if it doesn’t come naturally to you, and especially in this era of pandemic, we are fundamentally doomed to live for eternity.
If you have trouble being sociable or finding the right “match” with your mom friends: solidarity.